tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3963199911568795584.post93713858787784055..comments2024-01-09T02:23:21.259-08:00Comments on Barbarossaaaa's Blog: Single mom psychology, seeks the spousification of male sonsbarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14629160461800644496noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3963199911568795584.post-42519588406581232882014-08-19T20:28:23.733-07:002014-08-19T20:28:23.733-07:00I'm in a marriage (for 10yrs now) and my wife ...I'm in a marriage (for 10yrs now) and my wife asked me a divorce. <br /><br />I moved from Ohio to Texas to marry this woman. In the household was a daughter (the oldest child) with 3 children, 2 young adult boys who were as close as twins and terrorized the neighborhood and a high school aged son about ready to graduate with tremendous potential. <br /><br />1yr prior to our marriage, her oldest male son was murdered which effected his surrogate twin for years with devastation. <br /><br />My wife has conversations with this middle boy and will do "anything" in her power for this (now) 39 year old son. He can be across town and say he's hungry and she will jump from her seat fix something, package it and deliver it to him with pleasure. This past weekend, he was 200 miles away and with no notice, called his mother to come get him, she left dinner on the stove and ran to his aid. <br /><br />Now, she ask me for a divorce but, now I'm finding that she is suffering from I believe is spousification!!! I ALWAYS come second and there is nothing I can ever do about this. Before I was reading today and learning of this (I'll call) disorder, I couldn't put my finger on what the hell was going on but, everyone knows that NO ONE can come between her and this adult son. <br /><br />Just as important, my wife NEVER showed any visible sign of grieving after her oldest son died. Doctors and others told her she needed counseling but she refused. I'm beginning to feel that my wife is emotionally damaged and doesn't realize it! <br /><br />Her father was an Army brat and NEVER around. Mother was a Jezabel who died early and the mother allowed her to be raised by a minister who ended up raping her. She remembers NOTHING about her childhood growing up. I DO NOT know what to do. I will NEVER be "her No. 1" that is reserved for her adult son who's father would not acknowledge he or his brother. <br /><br />But, I feel that I took a vow...for better or worse and I intend on staying with her now that I'm beginning to better understand what I'm dealing with.<br /><br />Any thoughts?cdcolohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10597639292287562741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3963199911568795584.post-1683268139187064082014-05-14T14:41:31.766-07:002014-05-14T14:41:31.766-07:00Sorry I grew up in a single mother household, Barb...Sorry I grew up in a single mother household, Barbar is right on the mark here. <br /><br />Single motherhood by choice is social dysfunction, it is child neglect and child abuse, the woman chooses to be a single mother, so you can generalize. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14614729042996818313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3963199911568795584.post-5992613076858755692014-05-14T14:40:22.558-07:002014-05-14T14:40:22.558-07:00No you don't get it you idiot. It is women dri...No you don't get it you idiot. It is women driving men away.! <br /><br />WOMEN HAVE AGENCY! They choose to drive the men away, do you not get that? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14614729042996818313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3963199911568795584.post-5735597160014478592012-12-11T06:01:39.328-08:002012-12-11T06:01:39.328-08:00Clearly you know nothing about psychology- and eve...Clearly you know nothing about psychology- and even less about psychology of single mothers. It is scary at best to know that there are people out there that will make such prejudicial statements implying that ALL single mothers, that ALL women consider children resources. That is like saying that ALL males are child molesters and dead-beats who only want women for the sex and take off at the first sign of Responsibility. Such blanket statements proves just how much prejudice you have. <br />Second, You might want to actually make sure terms you use actually mean what you use/believe them to mean. You are mis-using the term Spousification. Spousification is when a parent/parent-figure (males are JUST as likely to be the offending party as females) attempt to use a child in a manner that is how they should interact only with a spouse- and specifically involves either emotional sexual abuse (ex:talking in detail with child about sexual relations they are having with others (with their spouse or other people), talking with child about things that they Want the child to do or would want to do to the child), or physical sexual abuse. Eaglefiredancinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00305147207314083142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3963199911568795584.post-18002428993712779742012-09-25T22:03:28.943-07:002012-09-25T22:03:28.943-07:00I get it, the man comes in and makes certain promi...I get it, the man comes in and makes certain promises to a girl. She is young and naive and falls for it. She gets pregnant. Jerk dumps her. Son watches mom sacrifice for him and wants to help his mother out. He has a natural distrust of men because he doesn't see fatherly examples.<br /><br />Barbarrossaaa, instead of advocating withdrawl from society and manly obligations, you seem to be telling men to do exactly what the father has done, creating a perfect storm for young men to be susceptible to falling into gangs.<br /><br />Why don't you all just man up? If you keep advocating using women for sex, you help create MORE single moms, not less.SavvyDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02380401063646153237noreply@blogger.com